7 Tips to a Healthy Self-Esteem

With healthy self-esteem, you're much more likely to reach the fitness goals you set for yourself.

February 18, 2013
7 Tips to a Healthy Self-Esteem

As women it’s important that we feel confident in who we are and what we do. I know several women who struggle with the C word: Confidence. So where do we gain our confidence? Do we depend on others opinions of us, do we gain confidence by our achievements, or does our confidence come from within?

I know several women who stay out of the gym simply because they lack the confidence to walk through the door. The gym is a place where we can build our confidence, and work on improving the way we feel about our bodies. The mind-body connection is amazing and, in my opinion, taking care of you starts with a healthy mind.

I remember how uncomfortable I felt in the gym when I first started lifting weights. I thought everyone must have been looking at me. Maybe they were making fun of my form, or maybe my scrawny arms. Truth is, they probably weren’t even looking at me at all. But we are our own worst critics, and we don’t give ourselves credit for the courage it takes to step into the gym. The gym is a great place to learn more about your body as well as build confidence.

Sure, most of us feel confident when we get all dolled up: hair done, make up on, and a hot little black dress; but truth be told, I feel most confident when I’m in my workout gear and killing it in the gym. Gaining confidence in your workouts and abilities in the gym creates lasting confidence. It feels good when you establish a goal, stick to the goal, and see the physical changes take place. The confidence you gain in the gym is a confidence that no one can take away from you.

So how do you do it? Below are some simple tips to help you along your confidence-building journey:

1. Don’t depend on others to make you feel confident. We are all unique individuals, and possess special talents and attributes. Take pride in your uniqueness and learn to the love the areas you don’t love.

2. Take a risk. Step outside your comfort zone in order to achieve new goals. Be proud of yourself as you reach new goals, and if you face setbacks don’t dwell in them, instead acknowledge them and move on.

3. Baby steps. Start with the exercises you know and feel confident doing, slowly learning new ones. If you are unsure about a new workout routine or exercise pick up Muscle and Fitness Hers magazine and follow a pre-built workout routine.

4. Assess your current strengths. What are you good at, and what areas of your body do you love? Come up with a list and write it down.

5. Identify the areas of your body you wish to improve upon. But be careful not to label these areas as “problem” areas, instead refer to them as areas that you want to focus on changing.

6. Don’t compare yourself to others. I know, this one is hard for many of us. One of my favorite quotes comes from Steve Furtick: “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” Remember, we are all unique with different bodies. Challenge yourself but don’t compare yourself… if you do the latter, you’ll always end up disappointed. Focusing on being the best you that you can be.

7. Don’t be afraid to pat yourself on the back. When you’ve accomplished a goal, don’t be afraid to be proud!

As you begin to challenge the way you think about yourself, take risks, and stop comparing, you’ll begin to see that you are worth it. Being truly healthy is not only taking care of your physical health, but also your mental health.

IFBB Pro Sandi Forsythe
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