Break Quick Fixes
Quick fixes create more problems than they solve. Here, IFBB Pro Sara Hurrle explains why you need to let go of quick feel better fixes.
We often rummage through the kitchen for a quick feel better fix, but cookies don't solve problems. Maybe it’s not cookies for you, and if that's the case just insert whatever it is that “has“ you. The thing that calls your name when cravings hit, and you can’t keep it in your house for fear that you will eat all of it. Or maybe it’s your quick fix when you celebrate, or you are sad, or it is cloudy outside, or sunny, or it’s a good day, a bad day or any day ending in “Y.” My point is, we are all addicted to some kind of quick fix in varying degrees.
As a personal trainer, yoga instructor and competition coach, I have worked with hundreds of women over the years, and have heard countless stories of yo-yo dieting, binge eating and self destruction. I have my own story. I am a recovering alcoholic and have been sober now since May 27, 2004. I lived in a constant cycle of pain and pleasure. Until one day, that thing that was meant to give me pleasure caused me more pain…that’s when I knew I need a new solution.
Now, I’m not saying if you have a problem, you need to go to rehab to solve it. However, you do need to realize that what you are currently using as your “solution” isn’t solving the problem, it’s making it worse. When people ask what is the one skill that I use most in my training, it isn’t knowledge of the body or biomechanics but the skills I have learned through recovery. We have all learned ways to comfort ourselves through food. Society tells us to “celebrate,” that we “deserve” it, and to reward ourselves like a dog. But cookies don’t solve problems. We all know this, and yet “cookies” are the first thing we run to when we feel sad, feel happy or don’t want to feel at all. It’s a normal and very common response, but it’s also what keeps us form reaching our goals. It’s self-sabotage.
So, what is the answer? The answer will be different for all of us, but what I can tell you is the only thing we are promised is today. So take it one day at a time rather than trying to "solve" the entire problem for eternity. You will have good days and bad, but acknowledging what you are doing and making a conscious decision to find a new solution is a start. Trying something new is often scary, just remember you are worth it. You are not powerless over your cravings.
Here are a few tips to help you resist the urge to sabotage all of your hard work:
> Get moving. Actions speak louder than words. Go to the gym or just go for a walk, but taking that first step will often lead you to a better place.
> Start journaling. Vent, cry and write down whatever is actually bothering you. Get it out; sometimes keeping things locked in will only keep your head in a toxic place.
> Connect with someone. Get an accountability partner. Connecting with others is a great way to get a new perspective and to be able to hold yourself accountable.
> Redefine “treat.” Instead of your go-to being a high carb, sugar-laden “treat” that will wreck your goals, choose a pedicure, a new shirt or even a relaxing bath instead.
> Stay positive. Your thoughts are imperative to your overall success in whatever it is you are pursuing. Take back control of your thoughts and your actions will follow. Invest in positive books and post up positive affirmations around your place to help keep you on the right train of thought.
Try new ways to "fill" yourself up both mentally and physically. Your mind, body and soul will thank you. You are worth it. I believe in you. And remember, cookies don't solve problems.
IFBB Physique Pro